Pride, Greed, Wrath, Envy, Lust, Gluttony, Sloth: Embrace Your Dark Side!
The concept of sin
and virtue comes from religion. It comes from the need to run a society
amicably and without chaos. It makes sense too, especially because human beings
had, over a period of time since their evolution, moved away from the natural
order, and with their ingenious brain made a life so luxurious and so appealing
to the senses that slowly and steadily they moved away from the concept of
moderation and began doing/ consuming/ using more than they needed, in every
walk of life.
The few
visionaries that existed would have seen the mayhem that lay ahead if this
mindlessness continued and so rules were laid out in the name of God (and away
from Pagan concept of worshipping the classic elements) and societies and
religions made, as we know it today. Its importance has not diminished in any
way but the original intention of those visionaries, slowly and steadily have
been interpreted in ways to suit different agendas.
Humans are animals
but dangerous animals for they have a superior brain but a brain that has
forgotten how to be in sync with Nature. Animals eat, mate, have a social
pecking order, mark territories, kill the young that they haven’t fathered in
some cases but none of them need a lesson in the cardinal sins. Yet, the
superior Homo Sapiens need lessons, over and over again despite which they
digress from time to time. Have you ever wondered why?
There are always
two ends to any spectrum- two extremes. Usually, optimal operation happens
around the centre plus-minus degrees equally on either side. In some
situations, extremes are useful and in others detrimental. Yet, we can salvage
the situation if operating from either extreme is a one-off thing. What is unfavourable
to the point of being disastrous, is when we start operating from either
extreme a lot more than once in a while. Aristotle in “Nicomachean Ethics”
talks about a desirable trait or a virtue being flanked by two extremes. He
gives the example of courage being the virtue and while one extreme was
being cowardly the other was being rash. As per Christianity,
within the Catholic, Protestant and Lutheran denominations, the seven deadly
sins corresponded to seven virtues: Lust- Chastity, Gluttony- Temperance,
Greed- Charity, Sloth- Diligence, Wrath- Patience, Envy- Gratitude and finally,
Pride-Humility.
Looking at the way
the present-day world operates, I would make Sin and Virtue two extremes and
put in seven operational modes as on date but before we do that, we need a
strong dose of reality.
- We
must know that each and every one of us has a dark side.
- There
is no light without shade.
- We
must acknowledge and then explore that dark side.
- It
won’t be pleasant, but we must accept it, love ourselves knowing that we have a
dark side and carry on exploring why it is there and how we can change it?
- Suppressing
our dark side does not rid us of it.
- Addressing
it, and going back to our deepest part of the psyche is necessary. If it is
daunting due to traumatic experiences, in some cases, please take professional
help. No shame in any of it.
- Love
yourself during this painful and triggering journey, forgiving yourself and
those people and situations due to which you have a dark side.
- Slowly
begin to release the negativity, the pain, the rancour and every other negative
emotion that bubbles up. It may take days, weeks, months and more but do it.
- It
is difficult in the beginning but do it anyway. It is also a lifelong process.
While you are carrying out this purging ritual, also on a daily basis take time
just before sleeping at night, to go over your day, give thanks for all that
went well and forgive yourself and all those who made things uncomfortable for
you during the day.
- Once you have purged yourself of all the negativity,
you will feel light and devoid of fear, anxiety and everything that stems from
it.
As a cross between
Aristotle’s idea and the Christian sin- virtue belief and in keeping up with
the way life works today, I’ve tried to come up with a common ground between
sin and virtue as I mentioned above. Anything from the centre or operating
realm to the virtuous side would be a great place to operate from
Sin Operational Realm Virtue
Lust Mutuality Chastity
Gluttony Occasional Indulgence Temperance
Greed Equality Charity
Sloth Work-Life Balance Diligence
Wrath Action Patience
Envy Acceptance Gratitude
Pride Self- Confidence Humility
I read a beautiful
article by Osho Rajneesh about the concept of sin. Most religions condone the
act and they encourage you to feel remorse over the act so that you won’t
repeat it again. These religions also do not believe in the concept of rebirth.
Either by fear or by invoking guilt, they desire to make you worthy of the
Heavens which happens to you just once when you die. The concept in Hinduism
and Buddhism is different. They believe in the concept of death and rebirth, in
cycles, which happen over and over again in different settings to teach you
what you need to learn. The ultimate lesson is to break free from these cycles.
Osho explains this concept of the Upanishads simply and beautifully as the four
states of consciousness; waking state, dreaming state, state of deep sleep and
the fourth state. Just imagine sitting in place A. That is your waking state.
Now, you slip into a dream state and believe you are in place B. Nothing in
your dream state is about to remind you that you are in place A. You don’t
remember anything but place B. From here you move into deep sleep and you
forget both places A and B. Nothing exists for you. This is how the first three
states of consciousness are explained. The fourth state known as “Turiya” (the
fourth), talks about attaining realization wherein all these states disappear. This
is the reason why the world and worldly affairs are called “Maya or Mithya”
(Illusory). What we see as a reality, what we call life is actually a deep
sleep state. When we die, we actually awaken. However, it is possible to awaken
even in deep sleep state of ours (that is what we call enlightenment) if we
practice mindfulness. Being in the present moment at all times. To us, that are
not realized, it is just a concept but we can get there if we practice
mindfulness.
What you need to
take home from this blog is to know that each and everyone of us has a dark
side and so instead of judging one another, we ought to focus on our own
darkness that lies deep within and allow light to enter and clear that fog and
misery that stems up from it. Do not fear your darkness but liberate yourself
from it.
Deep and meaningful... balancing out the way we live is very important, and yes difficult too ! Dealing with my dark side... yes, I have to first acknowledge it...
ReplyDeleteThank you Rajat :)...I agree!
DeleteBeautiful written, so well researched and wonderfully explained! Not a word that I can fault or would disagree with.. The issue indeed lies in the whole ‘holier than thou’ attitude that people like to project! Accept it that you have that darkness within you.. embrace the darkness.. understand the darkness.. Deal with how much of that darkness needs to be exhibited and eventually without darkness how could there ever be light? If only Homo sapiens could indeed embrace this. As for religion.. Don’t even want to get started! Like they say.. ‘You don’t need religion to have morals. If you can’t tell right from wrong, then you lack empathy not religion’.
ReplyDeleteThat said.. Loved the piece.. Will be reading it again.. there are certain points I definitely wish to read and understand better ❤️
Thank you Toxicheaven! :) You said it! While we project our "holier than thou" attitude towards others, what's scary is when we start believing that for ourselves!! That quote is bang on! Thank you once again!
DeleteExtremely insightful. It is really important to embrace and accept oneself as a whole package, virtue and sins et al.
ReplyDeleteYou have once again proved my belief in you. .When it comes to being informative and retrospective, your blogs can never go wrong.
Thank you Love for being you. I love and look forward to our discussions.
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