musingswhileunlearning

  Are you defensive? Before you say a defensive “No!” think again! We all are or have been defensive at some point in our lives and will continue to be at other points in our life despite the blog! Then why am I taking the pains to even pen this down, you’d wonder?! Well, the effort behind this one, is to understand what being defensive is, why we do it and what we can do to reduce this behavior to a point that it becomes practically non-existent! If you can go back to instances from your past, when someone has asked you as to why you are being defensive or to those instances when you have been quick to answer even at the cost of cutting someone’s question halfway, you will find that being defensive is a reaction, an impulsive retaliation and not a well thought out response. This is because it is our defense mechanism that kicks in from what we perceive as potential danger. It is a knee jerk reaction to protect ourselves- a primal instinct. Think about it; if someone is asking ...

Is it? Is it okay to be vulnerable? Is being vulnerable a sign of weakness or strength? If it is a sign of strength then is there guarantee that once we show our vulnerable side no one will take advantage of it? What if someone hurts us again and in a way that will mar us for life? What if we are not accepted or are made fun of? What if we end up alone and ostracized? However trivial the issue might be for the objective viewer, for the person going through this dilemma, it is always a big deal. Small matters can even lead to suicide depending on many factors but mainly based on how long the hurt has been collecting or piling and festering within. Every single individual at one time or the other has gone through this dilemma and not just once! Up until now, societies have never encouraged showing our emotional or “weak” side. It is only over the past decade or so that men have started showing a softer side for the traditional male took it all in. A favorite macho dialogue in Hindi fil...

When dark clouds surround us, like the current situation the world over- with this dreadful pandemic that has changed our lives, we tend to recollect our past, our good times and bad; our follies and our lost friendships; our loved ones who have passed on; those relationships that we'd rather keep under wraps  and important events that have dotted our journey. Today, I have reached a place in my life where I can see things from a different perspective- where all those clichés make sense. No, I do not claim to know it all but I am willing to delve deeper into issues that trigger unpleasant emotions. I need and I am ready for a cleanse from all things that stop me from being the person I am meant to be- and thus, I begin my inner child healing. My aim, with every piece that I write to share with an audience (including the light-hearted, frivolous ones), is laced with the hope that I might benefit even a single soul with my words while bringing solace to my own self. It is my...