musingswhileunlearning

Rape! I wonder how people react to this word. Do they even react to it anymore? Is the reaction because they feel anything or because they are  expected to feel something? It is with deep anguish that I write this. Episodes of rape are so many and so regular that I believe people have become or are becoming desensitized to the act. So, mere molestation  is  just accepted as the norm. #MeToo was an eye opener for men, I hear. They did not know it happened to “decent” women as well-except as a rare coincidence. This was an eye opener for me! Credits: facebook.com In India, we have too many people. News of a few deaths, natural or otherwise, to a few rapes within the marriage or outside of it- adult or minor, is not enough to ruffle routine life. “Few” did I say? In the last month there have been so many bus accidents with them falling over bridges, and many deaths reported. It seldom catches our eye and if it does, we quickly brush it off. What’s such a big deal! I...

Credits: alamy.com In this digital world where all answers are just a click away, there is suddenly an overload of information. Add to it, the social media which is now a global addiction has its own inputs of all kinds. For a person (read Me!) who is curious, with a mindset that gets affected by anything which is convincing enough, even complete contradictions, this is rather daunting and today, I seldom find clarity of thought! Everything seems right! To make matters worse are the spiritual teachings, which I agree with again, that tell you that there are no wrongs and no rights! Credits: wattpad.com This information explosion gives us an ego of false knowledge as well. I suddenly feel like a doctor because WebMD speaks to me and I distribute knowledge like an Honorary Doctor. You must see a doctor’s expression if you open your mouth showing your vast knowledge (it will be a blessing to survive the look!!).  The bottom line is that no matter which field it may be; medici...

Credits: timesofindia.indiatimes.com “Dosti ka usool hai Madam, No Sorry, No Thank You” said Salman Khan to Bhagyashree in the super hit movie “Maine Pyar Kiya” and this dialogue just stuck on-much to my dissatisfaction. It literally translates to “there is a rule in friendship-no sorry, no thank you”. The spirit here, of friendship and later love, is based on the fact that the two involved have crossed all barriers and have reached such an understanding, that formalities are not required. If one makes a mistake, the other already knows that he or she is sorry for it or if you do a good deed, you already know the other is grateful for it- no need for explanations! Credits: ameblo.jp While it is comforting to have that level of understanding with anyone, my question is, do close relationships have to be devoid of courtesy? While the above explanation is all grand it doesn’t work in the long run, if we are true to ourselves. This is in fact, the perfect way to enter into the t...

Credits: me.me Just out of the kitchen, I head straight for my computer. I have to put this down NOW! Considering, it is already half an hour past my children’s lunchtime (I ate long ago- some leftovers from yesterday; couldn’t wait for the right mood that facilitates cooking for I have never been good at controlling hunger), this had better be something important!! Well, it is! I have reached a stage of burnout as far as cooking is concerned! That is no trivial matter. Credits: news.com.au For all of you out there who know how particular I am about my kids’ routines (even before they knew what that meant), you would be shocked at such a deviation from norm. I am guilty to inform you that this has been happening a little too often in the last few months, maybe more, and I worry, for this phase doesn’t seem to pass. I haven’t baked in nearly three weeks and that is blasphemy!!! My kids are eating chocolate every afternoon as dessert as I don’t have the will to cook. I get looks...